Many people were confused about why my children say “Yes Sir” and “No Sir”. Many people have dismissed it as “just a Southern thing”, or a strange form of authoritarian brainwashing. People who feel the need to lump my family in with their preconceived notions or stereotypes is to be expected. No, it’s not just something we do. No, it’s not me demanding respect from my children because I’m an egomaniac. (On second thought, my wife might have a good counter argument about my selfishness as a human). I hope you don’t throw us into one of your categories of “types of people”. Consider that we, like many other families, might take the job of raising awesome people (parenting) so seriously that the results look strange to normal people.
I did not demand that they say “sir” when I filmed this video, I simply asked them questions. They say “sir” when they know I’m trying to clearly communicate something and they’re letting me know in a very clear way that they understand. We take parenting much more serious than most people you’ve come in contact with. We don’t try to modify their behavior, we try to shepherd their hearts. Brainwashing a child is selfish, dumb, and destructive. I understand that most people have not witnessed a style of parenting that results in mutual respect without threats or fear…, so this is understandably confusing to the masses. Some think it’s over the top for a child to show respect to their Father. Then again, some also think it’s over the top to teach a 5 year old Fluid Mechanics. My wife and I disagree with both of these groups of people. We’re not trying to create Angels or Academics. We’re simply loving our kids by exploring the world with them and shepherding their hearts.